Death will come to us all, so perhaps we can consider what kind of death we would rather? Personally, I would like my death to be a peaceful one and to that end it’s important I put the work in now to accomplish that as much as possible!
There is a difference in what the world considers normal nowadays when it comes to dying. A common scenario at any general hospital when death shows up could mean that there has been a change of shift or you’re sharing a room with one or more patients with their own degree of illness. Probably none of the staff know you and have not had the time to get to know you! Perhaps there are visiting hours and your loved one is alone or perhaps the hospital doesn’t encourage your family to stay when the end is near. Maybe your loved one has been strapped to the bed for his or her safety and they have no idea what is happening to them.
Consider this scenario instead. You’re still in that same hospital except they have a different philosophy and accept that something needs to change. They have spiritual or religious advisers on hand for end of life moments and when the time comes, after having spoken with the patient as to his or her preferences, a call is made and someone comes to speak some final words. Words of thanks, words showing gratitude and love and words containing a message of peace so that this person can die hearing love spoken.
My wish is to serve the dying with my words. This wish includes being called for at the end to administer a kind of last rites but without the religious connotations. If I would have had the opportunity to have spoken with the patient before the end, that would be the greatest gift of all, as I would have gotten to know the dying person’s wishes and as such, I would then include any of their choices too.
We all deserve the death we want so why not create a peaceful death by living a life that is peaceful, loving and happy so that when the end comes, we know what awaits us will be based on what we did.